Added: 22nd September 2023 by CGI
I am a 34-year-old non-binary trans-femme individual and I have worked for CGI for 9 years. I joined in 2013 as a first line Technical Analyst, answering help desk calls and fixing a broad range of IT issues. After two years I moved to an Engineering role within end-user device management, creating solutions that would change thousands of devices at once.
Finally, I moved into an Investigative Analyst role, performing complex problem root cause analysis, and creating solutions for them. I came out as non-binary in 2022 and CGI has been supportive and helpful in allowing me to just be myself, both working from home and from our offices.
Once I had told friends and family members, I thought to myself – let’s just rip off that plaster. I told everyone right out, via email to be sure, and covered on a team meeting too.
It did take some time for people to get used to using neutral pronouns for me, and later on to my change in name as well, but it’s been so positive that I would heartily recommend to anyone in CGI that they don’t have to be reluctant about coming out, and that there are loads of people in the community available to support them.
Firstly, that it’s totally understandable to be nervous and it’s okay, all of us were nervous when we approached coming out too. If the big-bang approach doesn’t seem right for you, then start with one person, whoever you feel is going to be the most receptive.
It might be a colleague you’ve worked with since day one, it might be a current or former boss, or it could be the person manning the car park you say “hi” to every morning. You don’t need to rush, and you can take your time - but if you are, let people know to avoid them outing you by accident, and giving you the control of the information.
To me allyship is treating people with respect and dignity, allowing them to have the space to express themselves. This means not judging, having open conversation, and being prepared to explain and listen – something we’re not always good at.
I don’t believe every ally needs to be a morality or ethics warrior, often you just want someone to see you as you, and not as what hundreds of years of social conditioning tells us we “should” see.
Specific allyship to the non-binary community to me just means also accepting that people can change their presentation whenever they feel they wish to, and so one day they may be presenting very feminine, the next very masculine, and the day after somewhere else again. It’s not a sign of anything other than the individual being who they want to be.
True inclusivity comes from normalisation. Normalisation comes from something being commonplace enough that it no longer sparks comment at being unusual. I know and acknowledge that non-binary individuals make up a very small percentage of the overall population, so waiting for normalisation to happen through visual exposure may take a while.
Inclusivity stems from seeing what makes us the same, not from seeing what makes us different.
We’re conditioned to fear or mistrust anything we don’t understand which has led to exclusion and discrimination for groups of people throughout history. Having conversations about non-binary people will improve people’s knowledge and understanding, which then lowers fear, intolerance, and unconscious biases.
A term I’ve been using recently when talking about this is “Normalise it, don’t Spotlight it”. Seminars newsletters and PRIDE coverage don’t appeal to those who aren’t interested, and so the only way to reach them in a conflict-free manner is to just include non-binary representation in everyday ways. The next time you have a briefing on health and safety, or GDPR procedures, or anything not specifically about LGBTQ+ matters, include a non-binary speaker/panellist.
One of the biggest challenges I personally face is people refusing to change because they are “old school” or “too old to change”. A preposterous statement, as one of the LGBTQ+ social groups I frequent has many of its members past retirement age.
Language changes constantly, and people change with it so long as the people around them change too. It’s important to challenge outdated language or purposeful use of incorrect names and pronouns – not in a hostile manner, as there’s no need to ostracise someone who you ultimately want on your side, but in a positive and constructive manner that enlightens someone and improves their understanding and mutual respect. Similarly, any stereotypical behaviour or treatment should also be challenged, as this can be harmful to more than just non-binary individuals.
One of the biggest helps I had at CGI was access to an LGBTQ+ Microsoft Teams channel, where I could find and reach out to other members of the community for support and assistance navigating some of the HR challenges that arose (such as changing my name and gender on my HR record). For any smaller businesses that may not have such a presence, providing access and signposting to external help and support organisations is vital, along with provisions to grant time off for any transition-based activities and mental health reasons.
By being out, by being open, and approachable and a source of good information, I hope to gradually improve everyone’s knowledge and acceptance of diversity in the workplace.
